> Sunday, April 12, 2009
Sent my soldier in yesterday. It's never easy to say goodbye all the time and things are really going to be different. Everything around me seem to be reminding me of his absence and I really had a hard time coping with the change yesterday. But I believe with a little more time, courage and support from each other, we can adapt to the brand new life.
Since yesterday, I've been very tempted to tell my parents about him but I am very sure they will object. Especially when he is in army now. My parents expect me to get a financially stable man, in other words, a man who's already working. It's not that I don't know where they are coming from, which parents wouldn't want the best for their kid? In parents' opinions, we are all young ignorant kids who know nuts about love. Yes of course I know I am still young and immature and may know nuts about it, but at least I know when someone is treating me well from the bottom of his heart. Even if the relationship does not take off far, at least I did ever try to maintain it. I feel that every relationship is a precious lesson learnt and it doesn't hurt to entrust my heart to someone whom I think is capable of guarding it as long as I am discerning and love myself enough.
I've observed long enough before making a decision. I've met guys older than me and supposedly, better partners than him in my parents' opinions. But I don't see them being more capable of taking care of me and being more serious about relationships. This is what I mean by there is no standard qualities that my parents should expect from my boyfriend.
Yes love cannot put bread on the table. But is a guy who can do so yet cannot take care of me psychologically going to make my life any better or easier? It's not like I am or going to be financially dependent on my boyfriend. I strongly believe in staying financially independent even after marriage cause we're really living in an age of uncertainty. And I don't need a life of luxury and a shake-legs life. Wouldn't that put my 12 years of education and counting on to waste?
My parents are those who feel that even 22 years old is TOO young to get involved, what more a 19 year old teen. It's gonna cause a quarrel but I rather that to happen now than to hide things from them and do things sneakily. So should I or should I not tell my parents about it?
Since yesterday, I've been very tempted to tell my parents about him but I am very sure they will object. Especially when he is in army now. My parents expect me to get a financially stable man, in other words, a man who's already working. It's not that I don't know where they are coming from, which parents wouldn't want the best for their kid? In parents' opinions, we are all young ignorant kids who know nuts about love. Yes of course I know I am still young and immature and may know nuts about it, but at least I know when someone is treating me well from the bottom of his heart. Even if the relationship does not take off far, at least I did ever try to maintain it. I feel that every relationship is a precious lesson learnt and it doesn't hurt to entrust my heart to someone whom I think is capable of guarding it as long as I am discerning and love myself enough.
I've observed long enough before making a decision. I've met guys older than me and supposedly, better partners than him in my parents' opinions. But I don't see them being more capable of taking care of me and being more serious about relationships. This is what I mean by there is no standard qualities that my parents should expect from my boyfriend.
Yes love cannot put bread on the table. But is a guy who can do so yet cannot take care of me psychologically going to make my life any better or easier? It's not like I am or going to be financially dependent on my boyfriend. I strongly believe in staying financially independent even after marriage cause we're really living in an age of uncertainty. And I don't need a life of luxury and a shake-legs life. Wouldn't that put my 12 years of education and counting on to waste?
My parents are those who feel that even 22 years old is TOO young to get involved, what more a 19 year old teen. It's gonna cause a quarrel but I rather that to happen now than to hide things from them and do things sneakily. So should I or should I not tell my parents about it?
